Aborted Women: In Their Own Words

Listening to my heart

by Lea D
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Well, I just wanted to share with you my story. When I was 15 I started dating this boy (Jeff) and everything was great. We did everything together, spent all of our time with each other and I met his parents and he met mine. I took him to my semi-formal at my high school so all my friends and teachers could meet him. I was soo happy to be with him. He was the type of guy that all the girls wanted. He was the lead singer in a band, was close to his parents, very very smart in school, studying in the electronics field and was just a great guy. Also that he was extremly hot/cute. lol Well anyway things were great between us, we decided that were were "the one" for each other and after 4 months of dating he asked me to marry him. Of course I said yes. So that very same week we decided that we wanted to have a baby, and talked about it and decided to start to try.

Well ... the next week I found out I was pregnant. I was nervous, scared and happy. So when I found out I went to his work and told him that I was preg he was scared and happy as well. He hugged me and said "it will be ok", "we can do this". So I was like, this is great I'm engaged to a wonderful guy, and I'm having his baby. Well, stupid me, thinking that everything would be great ... because it didn't work like that. The day I found out I was preg we decided to tell our parents that same day, but separately. So I told my mom and she was shocked but said it was my decision to keep the baby if I wanted to. Which was good cuz we planned it and all so why would I have an abortion or give it up, ya know? But the rest of my family were like, have an abortion, and all that crap. As for Jeff's side ... well ... that didn't go that easily. He told his mom and she was shocked also but said you should have an abortion, and that she would even pay for it. So I'm like no I'm keeping the baby and then Jeff was like, Lea, maybe you should have an abortion. I'm like, what the ??? Are you serious? I couldn't say "Jeff we planned on having this baby" cuz it would just feel weird to tell his mom that. (Keep in mind I was only 15 and he was 16.)

Jeff kept saying you should have an abortion and my family said you should have one, and EVERYONE said I should have one. They would say mean stuff about me behind my back and even to my face. Such as, "She's too young to have a baby", "that slut", "She must be sleeping around", and stuff like that. All that stuff did get me mad, and all I heard was that stuff over and over again. But I didn't want to get an abortion at all. Why would I want to try to create a baby and then just kill it? That's horrible!! Well I told everyone that I was keeping the baby no matter what anyone said!

So what happened was ... Jeff left me. I was a month preg and he left me, never said anything, just stopped calling me and he and his family avoided me and that was that. I ended up having my son on Nov 29 2003, no help from his father. His father and his father's family have not had any contact with me cept the occasional "he's not mine", "I want a DNA test" type of stuff.

But now I have a boyfriend who loves me and my son, and we plan on getting married. I've know him for 5 years and he was the one there for me throughout my pregnancy. So PLEASE girls if you don't want to get an abortion and everyone else is telling you to, PLEASE PLEASE listen to your heart, not what they want you to do. This is your baby inside your tummy, not theirs. Do not abort your baby and make such a "killing" decision at the words of other people.

I have a group that you may join. If you would like to join it is at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/TeenMomSupportGroup2/. Please contact me if you have any questions about my story or just need some advice! I will always respond to my e-mails! Thank you for reading this. Remember, Listen To Your Own Heart!!!!!


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Posted 1 Jan 2005

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