Aborted Women: In Their Own Words

Don't Impose Your Views

by Cloey B
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I don't know what I would have done had I been forced to carry my pregnancy to term against my wishes. It's all fine and good for people to be pro-life, I have respect for that but I have no respect for those who try to impose their views on others.

I was seventeen and pregnant. I love children and I love the idea of having one someday but seventeen was far too early. I wanted to be the best parent I could possibly be and that just wasn't possible then, nor would it be entirely possible now at twenty-two. I loved my child and that is why I decided not to have it. I never could have cared for it, and I doubt I could have even carried it to term without losing my mind.

Strangely enough, I thought, the two friends in high school who were the most supportive about my choice were my friends Nick and Brandon, both of whom are Christian and were born to teenage mothers. I was a little worried about telling them as I thought they would be angry with me but Nick made me a get well card and Brandon told me that he would pray for me that everything went okay. I think they understood that I wasn't doing it to be a bitch or evil, I was just doing what I felt was best. They knew me well enough to understand that. Nick's mom sent me her condolences saying that she knew it was hard no matter what choice I made. I was very open with my friends and family about my pregnancy and my decision to abort. My entire family knew and was very supportive (including my Presbyterian minister grandfather). We never did tell my boyfriend's parents though, and there were times I wished that I could have discussed it with his mother but I respected his wish to keep it from her as it would have upset her.

My abortion was by no means a good experience, I don't think any truly are. No one ever wakes up in the morning and says, "hey, you know what would be fun today..." I was sad then and I'm still sad now, five years later. Not sad because I don't have a child but sad that I got pregnant in the first place. I wish it never would have happened and I'm doing my damndest now to make sure that it doesn't happen again until I'm ready.

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Posted 21 Jul 2002.

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