How to Reach Out to Someone Considering Abortion

by Sam Socorro


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Abortion is a difficult subject to approach. So how do you reach out to someone that is considering having one? It is important to know the right way of discussing such a situation because, if gone wrong, the person will not likely be open to discussing it a second time.

Educate Yourself

Research as much as you can about abortions. Someone on the verge of making this decision is not likely to listen to someone who doesn’t know anything about it. Often times, a woman chooses abortion out of fear and/or lack of information. Be someone that can answer questions she may have and even present knowledge she may not have known.

Present Options

A woman thinking about abortion can sometimes feel she has no other option. She can feel confused and backed into a corner making her feel as if this is the only escape. There are a few different options available that you can present as an alternative.

A closed or open adoption is a great choice. A woman that feels she is not ready for the commitment of a child has the incredible opportunity to gift someone who is. There are people who want nothing more than to raise a child, but for one reason or another are unable to have one of their own. The option of an open or closed adoption gives the woman the option of being a part of the child’s life or not.

Ease Fear

Finding out that you’re bearing a child can be a frightening realization. For someone who isn’t ready, the news can spring them into a decision they may regret. A great way to help a woman thinking about abortion is to help her work through the fear of the situation. Much of that fear can come from lack of information, so the research you’ve done will be a great help here.

Listen to Understand

We often have difficulty discussing subjects of disagreement because we don’t listen to understand the opposing view. Abortion is usually a controversial subject and the only way you will be able to get through to someone is through understanding them. Remember that this woman is human and scared. Allow her to open up about these fears and thoughts without being judged or lectured. She will be more open to change her mind if she doesn’t feel she’s being berated. This is a time to be a friend and help her through one of the biggest decisions of her life.

Be Direct but Kind

There is no way to beat around the bush when it comes to abortion. The best way to approach the subject is directly. Remember that direct does not mean coarse. It is also best to bring it up in private. If brought up around others she may shut down and you’ve missed your chance to have a discussion. Approach your friend in private and tell her you wanted to talk to her about her decision to have an abortion. Keep kindness and empathy in your tone.

Reaching out to a friend on the decision to have an abortion can be uncomfortable for both parties. It’s important to educate yourself on the subject before the conversation, present her with other options, ease her fear, listen, and be direct but kind. Be an empathetic friend as opposed to a ridiculing lecturer.


Thank you to Sam Socorro who wrote this article. Sam is a guest author from Steam Shower Store and is a respected and expert voice in a plethora of health related subjects with over 10 years of writing under her belt.


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Posted Jan 23, 2017

Copyright 2017 by Sam Socorro
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